until you make it complicated for yourself.
I’m getting sick and tired of these bullshit posts. Downvoted for lack of idea and originality. For your sake, here:
The girl did nothing wrong. You were friends with her for A YEAR before you made a move?!
Alright broski, I’m going to spell it out for you the way it was spelled out for me after I did the same shit.
IF YOU DON’T MAKE A MOVE (ANY KIND OF MOVE) SHE WILL ASSUME YOU’RE JUST FRIENDS.
But prose, how can I build a friendship and lasting relationship with someone with out knowing them as a person?
EASY! Create the goddam relationship first. You’re interested in dating a girl? Tell her. I wonder how many nights she laid awake at night thinking about this awesome guy she met that won’t ask her out. They talk ALL the time and get along so well, but he doesn’t ever make a move. She probably tells her friends about this guy, and when he doesn’t grow a pair of balls and do something about it, guess what fucking happens.
Chicks don’t see you the way you see them. Unfortunately, girls CAN have guy friends that they don’t see in a sexual way. You know why? Guy friends are much less maintenance and easier to please than girl friends. Girl’s judge each other ALLLL the fucking time and can be quite vicious, all the while being great friends. Most guys (especially those in your case, the puppies waiting for the reward because they stick around) won’t judge a girl this harshly. Yeah, we may say some crude things once in a while, but nothing as cutting as girls can. Guys are also pretty independent. When shit goes wrong, we mostly deal with it ourselves. How many times have your girl friends been calling/texting each other, totally batshit insane over the smallest problem?
On the same note, YOU’RE always there to help her, right? So why fuck that up by doing something like sleeping with you. What if it doesn’t work out? She’s lost her no-bullshit-always-supportive friend.
Ok, I guess that makes sense…but if I get to know her first, there’s less chance of rejection, right?
Yeah, if by ‘less chance of rejection’ you mean ‘an almost 100% of not getting any pussy from her, EVER’. You need to make your intentions known. And I don’t mean grabbing your club, slinging her over your shoulder and strutting away. But for god sakes, take her on an actual date. When you show up at her door with flowers, only an idiot wouldn’t see that as a romantic gesture.
But what if I get rejected?
WHO GIVES A SHIT! You got rejected anyway, remember? Only now you have to keep talking to her or you’ll seem like an asshole. A dumb asshole that who let his chances of dating her slip everytime you listened to her complain about her job/friends/life while sitting with your dick in your hand, hoping one day she’ll “wake up” and realize how perfect you are. Guess what? If she hasn’t made a move, you’re fucked. There’s no magical switch you can press. Maybe she doesn’t find you attractive. Maybe you’re twitchy or have some kind of facial anomaly. Point is, women make moves, too. Did she make these moves earlier in your relationship and you didn’t notice? Or were you too scared to do anything about it?
But I want to make my relationship mean something!
That’s fine. But build on a solid foundation. The “Friend” and “Lover” towers are very different. Guess which one the party is on? If you climbed allll the way to the top of Friend Tower, how easy is it to simply get over to the top of the Lover tower? Pretty fucking hard, unless you’re reeeeeally good at jumping. So make sure you’re honest with someone from the start.
Worst thing that can happen is that you don’t get her. You don’t have her anyway, so you literally have nothing to lose.
TL;DR - You’re doing it wrong.Grow some balls and make your intentions known from the start
Me: So i just called you an asshat and you missed it..
Nic: No i got that.
Me: okay, good.
Nic: I then said I don’t have the tiger.
While browsing the vastness of the interweb I stumbled upon this, it’s only appropriate that this is about love seeing how Valentine’s Day, or S.A.D for the single population (includes me), is coming up. It just put a stupid smile on my face.
Question: How do I know if a girl loves me or not? —Ajay
Answer: If one night you go out drinking and end up back at her place, pass out together on the bed with your shoes on, and wake up a few hours later only to discover that you’ve peed the bed, which she takes in stride, changes the sheets, and then the next morning has a laugh about it, later leaves some pamphlets from the local health clinic about child bedwetters in your mailbox, and eventually after a few weeks tells your friends but never, ever tells hers: She loves you.
If she knows what song is coming next on the mix CD you made her: She loves you.
If she hides your shoes when you’re late for work, and from a supine position on the couch plays “Hot/Cold,” and, finally, after 15 minutes of you ignoring her screaming, “Boiling! Burning up!” every time you stalk angrily by the dishwasher, gets up, flips it open to reveal the shoes, sitting there among the plates, and hands them over with a kiss and a giggle, and then laughs some more as you tie your laces in a silent rage: She loves you.
If she calls you at work that day to ask, “How are those shoes working out?”: She loves you.
If when you get home you try to hide something of hers, she finds it immediately, shaking her head, and when she pulls whatever it is—oven mitts or stretch pants—from behind the couch, she looks at you and without any attempt to hide her pity, says, “I love you”: She loves you.
If you’re Gael Garcia Bernal: She loves you.
If you’re not Gael Garcia Bernal, but you’re willing to sit through a “GGB” marathon and agree for 10 consecutive hours that he is indeed the most beautiful and talented man alive—and so down-to-earth, too!—and afterward agree that his portrayal of Che Guevara would have earned an Oscar nod were it not for the implicit politics, agree that taking Spanish classes is a great idea, or salsa, or tango, whatever, agree, agree, agree, and that night lying in bed after sex that ends with her screaming, “Si! Si!” wonder aloud, “But you’re happy with me, right?”: She loves you, man—no one can compete with that Latin bastard. Forget about it.
If she puts up with an entire Stars of the Lid album on a long-distance road trip: She loves you.
If she dances with your friends: She loves you.
If at Halloween you’re invited to a TV- and movie-themed party and she dresses up as Winnie Cooper and you dress up as Paul Pfeiffer, mainly because you already have the glasses, and at the party some guy who’s a dead ringer for Fred Savage saunters up, peels off his mole, and says, “Get lost, Paul, Winnie’s mine,” and you’re left standing there while the two of them go off dancing to the soundtrack from Forrest Gump, and when two hours later she finds you sitting by the punch bowl explaining for the umpteenth time that, no, you’re not supposed to be Woody Allen, she holds up a tie stolen from a passed-out Alex P. Keaton to her petticoat and redubs herself Annie Hall, and you Alvy Singer: She loves you. And, to be honest, I sort of love you, too.
If she’s a zombie: She loves you, but only for your brains.
If she says, “I love you” on the roller coaster, right after you’ve puked down your shirt: She loves you.
If you go to a karaoke bar with friends and do a duet of “Endless Love,” and she insists on doing the Lionel Richie part if only so she can really belt out a big “Ooh whoa” near the end, and when you’re done she announces you to the crowd as “Miss Diana Ross, everybody,” and then gives you a high-five: She loves you.
If she plays pointedly with strangers’ babies at the park, intermittently looking over to you with an expression that says, “See?”: She loves you.
If her parents love you: She loves you, probably.
If her parents hate you: She might love you, too.
If she’s the youngest of four sisters, two of whom are lesbians, the third a nun, and the first time you meet her father he pulls you away from his wife’s gingersnaps and homemade iced tea to check out the vintage “titty mags” he keeps hidden underneath a bench in the six-by-four corner of the basement he calls his workshop, the only place in the house not painted lavender and decorated with images of kittens and/or sunflowers, and every few pages he points out a particularly luxuriant pubis, and when you concur—“Sweet”—he smacks you heartily on the back and before you know it he’s calling you “Son” and have you ever fished for pike up north? Because he’s got a cabin. What of this? Well, her dad sure as hell loves you. Welcome to the family!
If she ever says the words, “I hate you”: She loves you. Or she did at one point, anyway.
If she loves you, if she really loves you, you’ll know it. If you can wake up to her staring at you and it’s not even mildly creepy, if you catch her smelling the shoulder of the hooded sweatshirt you lent her for an autumn walk at the beach, and not for B.O., if she makes you a pancake in the shape of a shark, if she calls you drunkenly at four in the morning “to talk,” if she laughs at your jokes when they’re funny and makes fun of you when they’re not, if she keeps her fridge stocked with Guinness tallboys for when you come over, if she tells you how she wishes she were closer to her sister and that her dad makes her sad: She loves you, of course she loves you.
And with a love like that, you know you should be glad.
Taken from http://www.themorningnews.org/archives/the_non-expert/does_she_love_you.php/ Pasha Malla 2005
oh I know I’m TERRIBLE at citing sources
At first you’re so happy and all like
Then you get to finally hang out with them and you’re so excited
You talk on the phone and text all the time
You get called something cute by them and you’re like
Then…they start fading away from you and you’re just like “Oh okay?”
They completely stop talking to you and you’re like
Then you hear they’re going out with someone.